A Nigerian lady has told an impactful story in regard to her husband, who purportedly left for Lagos in 2019 following their wedding and stayed away forever.
The lady, distinguished as Chinenye Anyanwu, shared her experience on Facebook, a web-based entertainment platform.
She made sense of her becoming pregnant after their marriage in 2019 and anxiously educated her significant other about the news, which he received with discontent.
Thus, he made a trip to Lagos and didn`t return; it was subsequently uncovered that their marriage was a charade.
Read her story below;
“On 2nd August 2019, I walked into a marriage registry and exchanged marital vows with a man who legally became my husband after that exercise. Everything was fine. Everyone was happy for us,” she wrote.
On 27th August, precisely this day a long time back. Only 3 weeks after our marriage, he went out traveling to Lagos. His outing should be only multi week yet think about what, he hasn’t returned till date. What was the deal? So much.
2 weeks after he left I figured out I was fourteen days pregnant. The fervor, ohhhhhh. Be that as it may, he didn’t appear to be energized, why? I surmise pregnancy wasn’t part of his plans.
One month after the fact, the greatest trick in history was found. You’ll get to realize that the main genuine individuals at my wedding were individuals from my side (individuals who came for me). Everybody that came for and in the interest of my significant other were either recruited, controlled or deceived to join in or assume parts at the wedding including his uncle and the spouse, the food seller, picture taker etc.
More shocks coming. All his relatives I’ve spoken with while the relationship and marriage endured nko? They were all important for his main goal. Their numbers haven’t gone through till date. My significant other carried off all that he could lay hands on. Clearly his justification for the marriage was to gain admittance to them. Highminded lady don’t conceal her cash and resources from her better half right?
Days went to weeks, then to months. I embraced my situation, assumed a sense of ownership with the mix-ups that I made still up in the air to make things ideal for myself as well as my then unborn kid. Seems like a film scene right? Indeed, that’s someone’s reality yet this isn`t the primary concern of this post. Here’s the point.
My marriage endured only 3 weeks however it’s been 5 years of attempting to fix the harms brought about by that mix-up. It’s been 5 years of making a good attempt to reconstruct all that was broken somewhere near reason of that marriage blunder; mental, otherworldly, vocation, monetary, profound etc.
That one error affected practically everything, every other area of my life. Every now and then I ask myself “how did I let this happen under my watch?”.
1Everyone thinks you are strong and you are fine. But that’s not the whole truth. Few days ago my son woke up and saw me and said “Mummy you are crying again”.
It broke me however I couldn’t help it. The most recent two months have been damnation in my mind, brain and body. I assessed the beyond five years of my life and it appears God is rebuffing me for making one mistake.
All my efforts to fix things, get back to my normal life in all aspects hasn’t yielded positive in my assessment. It’s like I get to 70% progress then back to 20%. It’s just not working. It’s more like a shadow than it’s real. It’s luike I don’t belong here anymore, like I am just fading away yet shining from the outer. For just one mistake? Isn’t this two much consequence?
I have seen people make countless marriage mistakes/errors yet get back to their normal. Yet the holy book says God is not partial. I don’t understand it anymore. It’s not making any sense to me again. Make it make sense to me God!
The only crime I committed was trusting and committing to a man I didn’t know but thought I knew and didn’t take time to know. I didn’t keell anyone. I didn’t break the law of the land so why am I in jail? Why is my punishment this long and harsh?
The worst is that you don’t even have anyone to talk to because they don’t seem to understand. To them you are a strong woman and everything is either fine or you can handle everything.
Olumide, I have never cursed you in the past five years and for a reason I’ll never do that. May the universe judge between you and I accordingly. Life indeed is not fair. Dear God, I think it is enough. It is.”
